Would you please tell Your abortion story from when you were here.
Our proLife friends would have the world believe that every abortion worker is a money grubbing slimy pervert, and all women who get abortions are whores. They are ignorant. Our patients are decent, normal, daughters, girlfriends, and wives of everyday life and we want to help women despite threats to Our lives.

The proLife attempt is to marginalize abortion, imply that abortion is the exception, that nobody except those on the margins of society use abortion. This increases the guilt about getting an abortion. To fight this we must share our abortion stories. When someone speaks out against abortion, you should quit them as a friend or speak against them.

So, tell me your story. How many kids do you already have? Do you have a partner who helps emotionally and financially? Do you already receive housing, food or cash assistance? What will happen if you can't get this abortion? These stories are for Kansas legislators, Democrats and Republicans, and letting them know why we provide safe, legal abortions. Men and women both may fill these out.

Thank you. These stories will help show that abortions are done for important reasons. Judge us not. [Luke 6:37] Also, I am forwarding these stories to our Legislators in hopes that they will understand their normal Constituents, not just Operation Rescue, or Kansans for Life, or their conservative ministers.

This page will be updated as more material becomes available. Thanks to you who send us your stories.

I got an abortion because I was constantly sick. I wasn't able to keep any food down whatsoever. I was losing wieght rapidly. I wasn't able to stand up for long periods of time without fainting. I was only 8weeks along [LMP] and I was already skin and bones skinny. After the abortion I was abler to keep food down and I started to regain some energy.

If I had not got the abortion I believe that I would have starved to death. Plus the baby's father was scheduled to leave for Iraq for over a year and the would have been just months old. I would not have been able to financially raise that baby with him gone.

I am a young working woman just out of college with my Master's degree. I secured my first job upon graduation. My boyfriend of 3 years is still finishing school. Knowing that we were going to be apart so much more than we were together, I stopped birth control. He is an international student at my school. We are not really sure what will happen when he graduates this year. Will he be able to secure a job in the States and stay with me, or will he have to return to his homeland? This Christmas we took our first international trip to visit his family in his country of origin. This is where I became pregnant. Not knowing where we would be in a year, him here or 5,000 miles away and me just in the midst of my first year on my first job, not eligible for maternity leave, we decided to get the abortion. It was a hard decision knowing that we will probably eventually be married and have a family. The timing now was just not right and we felt it was the best decision for us.

We thank Central Family Medicine for providing us this service without judgement. Abortion is a choice and it should continue to be for women in all circumstances.

I'm 23yo. I have no children. I have a very supportive boyfriend that I've been with for 10 months. I have a great job doing something that I'm passionate about, but I'm still unsure about what I want out of life and where I want to end up. I still feel like I have a lot of living, growing, and figuring out who I am, and who I want to be before I have children. How can you teach your children to be strong, proud, and well rounded when you haven't yet learned that yourself?

My parents had me when they were 19yo and they hadn't lived or grown up completely, and when they finally did, they had grown apart. They stayed together for me because they felt obligated and I could feel that tension everyday.

I want to be stable and know what I want and who I am as a person before I become responsible for another life. This is why I got an abortion, because I feel that I owe it to my future children to be completely ready and stable when I bring their precious lives into this crazy screwed up world.

I'm 20yo and abortion never seemed llike an option I would have to make.

I was in a relationship with a guy that was struggling with a drug problem and who was emotionally abusive. Although all of these things were going on, I stayed with him for 6 years. I finally found the courage to leave and found out a few weeks later that I was pregnant with his child. Rather than put myself back into this hostile relationship, introduce an innocent child into a chaotic life, and have them grow up with a terrible example as a father, I made the decision to choose abortion. I also will be graduating from college in 4 months and I based my decision on these factors in my life.

I've accepted and become at peace with my decision. Not everyone who has an abortion is a monster! There is a time and place in a person's life for a child and this is just was not mine

You made me feel comfortable from the moment I was seen by you. I knew that you sincerely cared about me and never once judging me! While the procedure was being done you rubbed my head and talked with me, calming me the entire time. The world needs more kind-hearted souls like you.

I wanted to write you this little note while the events of the day are still fresh in my mind. Words escape me when I try to come up with a true thank you for the work you all do!! I guess I knew, but never truly realized how dangerous and tedious your jobs really are. From the kind women and doctors who helped my friend through her process, to Dan and Jeff keeping everyone safe and making sure things run smoothly, every single one of you; even if you think your're just doing your jobs, are all a gift sent from God! You're not told often enough how important what it is you do, and how well every single one of you does it. Jeff told me that since I have such a big mouth [Jeff's phrase was "Wild women don't get the blues," by Ida Prather Cox, meaning, "Say it like it is, don't keep it bottled up inside you making you sick and more abused." Also related is the movie "Wild Women Don't Have the Blues"] I shall never be bored!! Next time I'm in the city I'll be more than happy to have a nice chat with the local Thumpers! Merry Christmas and God Bless for you all in the New Year!

Sincerely,

Everyone's reasons are different for getting this procedure done. I made my decision because I'm not financially ready for a third child. And the father was no where around and was not dependable at all. So I felt I did what was best for me and my familty. Then END!     : )

I have two kids, a boy and a girl, 10yo and 7yo. Their dad is not a nice person. There was no way I could afford another baby all by myself. We have been on and off for 10 years. He showed up drunk one night and we had sex. I was scared to say "No," because he is very abusive. That's why we have been off and on for 10 years.

I've tried to leave but I can't get away. The police and DA never have really helped. I tried going through them to get away but he finds us. If I could not have had this abortion things would have got worse for my kids and I.

If I would not have found Central Family Medicine I'm not sure where I would be but I'm very thankful I did. Thank you.

I am a 21 year old single mother. I'm not a "tramp." I do not sleep around. I am currently double majoring in criminal justice and psychology to become a child's advocate. I am by no means a monster. I got pregnant at 18 and kept the baby; my daughter. Her father suffers from severe psychological problems. He put me through hell from day one.

In August I found out that I was pregnant again, even though I was on birth control. The guy was an ex and had no job, no vehicle, and horrible anger issues. I argued with myself from the second I saw the positive test that I couldn't go through with an abortion. I thought about it everyday, all day long. What kind of life would this baby have? Living in a trailer on welfare while I'd have to drop out of school to juggle two babies by different fathers? The thought made me sick.

Thanks to my right to choose, I get to stay in college and get my degrees and have a good life for myself and my daughter, and when I find the right man a few years down the road, I will add to my family.

I have two other kids. My boyfriend is not supportive,and doesn't know that I was pregnant, nor that I had an abortion. I work two jobs to support my family. Forty hours a week at one job, and 24 hours a week at my night job. I don't qualify for State Assistance. Nobody helps me financially or emotionally but my sister-in-law (older brother's wife). She is my rock. She can't help me financially but sure does try. She's worse off than I am honestly. She's the best. But if I didn't get the abortion my life would have changed. It was gonna be upside down!

I was raped at a party by an african amercian guy. My kids are... well, one is one-fourth mexican and three-fourth white. My youngest is all white so having a mixed (black and white) baby was out of the question. Most of my family would have completely disowned me!!! FOR LIFE!!!!! So please, I'm begging all of you in our State's Capitol (Topeka), please keep abortions legal! Let them women have a chjoice! They are the ones that have to live with it either way, not you!!! Do you wanna pay for it with your taxes?! I didn't think so!

I 've been dealing with severe back pain for 5 or more years. When I was in 10th grade I was in a car accident at 10mph where the airbags came our and hit me in my pelvis. I didn't have any back pain until I'd gotten my CNA in 2004 (10th grade). I worked 32 hours a week in nursing homes, plus went to High School.

After many years of lifting residents on my own, always on my feet and not getting healthy amounts of sleep, I was put on Lortab 5mg PRN (as needed). I took those for over a year when I was hurting more than Lortab would even touch. I was put on percocet 5mg x2 at bedtime and that was enough - good for 2 years. Then I started working in Assisted Living instead of a full blown Nursing home. I thought it'd be better for my back - BUT I'd JUST gotten my Med Aide license and pushing, pulling, and steering the BIG med cart irritated my back. I started taking a percocet 5mg during my 8hr work day if I HAD to.

The residents I cared for all had Alzheimers and I was always chasing them around. Eventually I got to where my doctors were all saying they weren't seeing anything wrong with my back. I underwent all the tests, injections, MRI's, nerve burning, etc. etc etc. which NOTHING seemed to help, and the doctors kept telling me there was nothing wrong and they don't know what to do for me. I decided to go to a spine doctor in Wichita who is VERY HIGHLY RECOMMENDED. This doctor is the BEST one, yet he understands my pain, tells me where the problems is (L5-S1). Also explained why I'm having such a bad time with pain, why my left leg is completely numb & why I'm always falling down. My disc is completely blown at L5-S1, nerves are being pinched off. I've been taken off work since 7-1-2011 due to pain and not being able to handle the duties of the NEW job I got in March of 2010 as a Debt Collector because nursing got so painful. Sitting in one spot for 8 hours is just as bad. I don't sleep at night, even on pain meds I'm on. Opana 5mg IR, Opana 10 ER, Ambien, Celexa 40mg.

I was put on my doctor's surgery schedule for 8-31-11, my father drove from Colorado Springs, CO to be there, my aunt took off work, my mom who lives in Hutchinson took there for surgery. The nurses had me in the middle of being ready for surgery (ex. IV done, BP cuff on, T.E.D. hose (compression stockings to prevent embolism during and after surgery) on, getting ready to give me some antibiotics), and my doctor's surgerical assistant came into the room to tell me I'm pregnant and that they have to cancel my surgery. I am off work on FMLA (Family Medical Leave Act) and that (short term disability) is only 3 months long in order to save your job I's have to be back by Sep. 29th.

I've never been pregnant before, I've been with the same guy for 6 years on 9-20-11. I stopped taking my birth control prior to surgery (Doctor's rules) and I'm allergic to latex, we very rarely ever have sex due to the pain it causes me. I do try to once in a great while for my boyfriend who is 26 years old. We didn't make sure to have to get NON-latex condoms and I conceived 7-29-11 (The first time we'd been sexually active for a good 3-4 months). The nurses at the pre-Op room room before I was to have surgery were all pressuring me me to have the baby, that I'd be a great mother, etc. Both of my parents are proChoice. It was a little easier to talk to them about my concerns, feelings, emotions, anger, and pain. I weighed out ALL of the options and decided Abortion was what was best for me. I was 7 weeks and 0 days as of TODAY which was when the procedure took place, 9-7-11. I've been on very strong medications the entire pregnancy. It wasn't planned. I haven't been working since 7-1-11 and am VERY short on cash, just to feed myself is hard right now.

The ObGyn I've seen for my yearlys spoke with my spine doctor and they both agreed it would be very difficult, if at all possible, to carry FULL TERM, Deliver, then care for the baby after birth, the way a baby should be cared for. After I gave birth, I'd have to have back surgery to get myself taken care of and would miss out on bonding with the baby. I've cramped very badly for the last week. I can NOT handle the extra pain I'm in due to all of the puking I do in the mornings, the cramping, and not being able to eat, PLUS the affects of my pain medicine!

I tried going by my ObGyn's recommendation to only take extra strength Tylenol for pain & Benadryl at night to sleep - that was NOT an option for me after giving the BEST ATTEMPT I could in order for me to be a successful/responsible adult and mother. I need to get my own health taken care of so that I can care for a child and be a mommy! I want to be able to care for my child with NO STATE ASSISTANCE and taking NO pain medication (during or after the pregnancy). I believe in proChoice. I'm thankful women still have the right to make a choice, especially in this situation I'm in.

My abortion story is that I'm a young girl who is stuck, couldn't tell anyone but my mother.
I have a life ahead.

The father is not in my life whatsoever. There is no way I could afford it, emotionally, physically. I go to school so it would be way out of hand. I have nobody to help me. I wouldn't know how to take care of a baby, I'm a kid myself. This abortion helped me in so many years [ways?]. I know that its not always a great decision but I know it was the best I could do. My family would surely not be happy about this. I'm supposed to be the first person in my family to graduate and go to college, how am I supposed to do that if I have a baby, there is no way. I don't have space, I have nothing to give this child. I didn't wanna bring a baby out into this world, if there is nothing I could give literally. I hope you understand why I did this.

I have a great job and a great support system, but for me personally, I have major goals within a year. I was supposed to start school in a couple weeks and being pregnant I know would not had let me complete and after school is over in a year and a half I plan on re-locating and I just feel I would have failed my self with all my goals. It sounds selfish but I will not ever put myself in this situation ever again. Next time I'll be more steady with a career and I can focus on a child.      :)

I am a strong supporter of abortion rights. My cousin in Wichita went to the late Dr. Tiller for an abortion. She told me he said to her, "When you''e ready to have a baby, come to me so I can see that you get good pre-natal care." I cried the day he was killed.

I strongly support your efforts to continue to provide abortion services. The new KDHE regulations are ridiculous. They are clearly not medically necessary. It's a pity your organization was denied a license [Not entirely true. We operate under a temporary restraining order stopping the law from taking effect until we can prove our case before the Federal Court. -Jeff, August2011]. With the final draft of the regulations approved June 17th, with a compliance date of July 1, how could any provider meet the new rules and regulations?

I am so proud of your efforts to challenge the measure, and you have my whole-hearted support. Please keep up your efforts.

I am a Senior in high school who's already been accepted to college. I made a mistake (well we). I didn't get pregnant my myself. But I felt this was the right choice for me. I had all the support I needed but ultimately it was my decision. Now I will continue my education and also educate young ladies like myself that there are many forms of birth control - just choose!

I am a single mother who makes under minimum wage. I struggle now as is to support my family of four by myself. I am pregnant with multiples and there is no way I can support any more children, the father is worthless, and I am glad to have a choice. Not to mention I don't believe I would be able to be an adequate mother to so many children. Birth control & condoms didn't work.

Also, I have a friend who has 6 kids and a couple of weeks ago found out she was pregnant. She could not get an abortion in Missouri so she stuck a clothes hanger up her for 3 days straight until she miscarried and a few days later she went to the Emergency Room & was admitted & kept her for a solid week with an IV antibiotic in her. She almost died from infection due to a cruel form of ‘self" abortion. If she would have known about Kansas being legal this could have been prevented.

I am the mother of a sixteen year old. She is a A,B student from XXXXXXXX. She is a quiet Book reader that never gave me a problem in the world. On Friday the 8th, 2011 I caught my daughter's boyfriend running from the back door. When I checked her cell phone as I removed everything from her room, placing her on punishment, I saw a ‘text' "What do you want. Me to starve your child?" I fell to my knees and cried. She's only sixteen. She has yet to graduate, and she has her whole life ahead of her. When I asked, What do you want to do? She said abortion. I asked why. "Because I'm not ready. I'm sorry. It should never have happened." We cried and spoke for hours about why the support system I put in place failed (people that she could talk to outside of me). Women! Myself being a 36 year old mother of two teenagers, one sixteen and the other fifteen. I live paycheck to paycheck and work as a teacher at XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX. I depend upon on public Housing to assist in providing for my children because I don't make enough and raising two teens is hard enough, so what would I do with a grandchild. The decision had been made and we relied on family to help provide the money to take care of the situation. But this decision was made because she, my daughter, wants to be a physiologist, she has plans this summer 2011 to interview at the XXXXXXXXXXXX Hospital and then at UMKC Medical internship next year. A baby would certainly cut all her hard working plans to become a better, more important member of society. A productive member that has so much to offer. I support the decision and will love her regardless but in this case I believe she made the right choice. Thank you [Editor's note: she's referring to Aid For Women, Kansas City] for assisting us in this life altering process and Good luck.

We have four kids, ages 20-16 between the two of us. This all started about January 2011. I had a vasectomy in ‘92 and hadn't had any problem with it ever. One night at work, I had a problem with kidney stones, but at the same time I ruptured the scar tissue, and the canal grew back together, but we didn't know this. My wife lost one child at birth & almost lost her, too. So when we found out she was pregnant at our ages, it was a huge blow. I had 4 kids but only one of her. So we never felt as if we had much choice, at least I didn't. The reward was not worth the risk. I am glad we had this Choice, in the long run it will serve our needs best.

In February 2011 I lost my job of 9 years. I found out I was pregnant shortly after. Without health insurance and my unemployment, I was in a serious situation. If I was not able to get this abortion my life would be far worse than I am now. I might even find a way to get one illegally. I have one child and I have always worked really hard for every thing I have.

I have two boys, Blake & Cody. Well the only thing that will be disrupted is work. I work a job from Monday thru Thursday. And the way Government and Economy is in bad recession. The American family cannot survive with more than three kids in a family. A single Mom - $20,000-$25,000; Average family $30,000 - $77,000 a year, politician $175,000; President of America $244,000. There is a problem with this scenario. [Editor's note: He is an Iraq war Vet who was being needled by my protesters. The protesters were lucky he didn't hurt them. He has dealt with Fred Phelps & family before at military funderals.]

Tengo solo un hijo, no seria problema para otras personas tenerlo, pero tenemos problemas economicos, necesito trabajar para poder pagar mis cuentas y los de mi familia. Esta opcion me permite segir con mi trabajo y no perderlo. Claro que me gustarla tener uno mas pero por ahora no es conbeniente quiero estabilisarme. Solo dios conoce mis nesecidades y mis problemas el sabe porque suceden las cosas y porque las pone en tu camino.

[Editor's note, rough translation:] I only have a son, I don't have the problem other people have, but we have economic problems, but I have to work in order to be able to pay my bills and those of my family. This option allows me to continue my job and not lose it. Clearly I would like to have one more but so far it is not advisable, I want to establish myself first. Only God knows my needs and problems because He knows things happen and because He put them in my way.

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