Would you please tell Your abortion story from when you were here.
Our proLife friends would have the world believe that every abortion worker is a money grubbing
slimy pervert, and all women who get abortions are whores. They are ignorant. Our patients are
decent, normal, daughters, girlfriends, and wives of everyday life and we want to help women
despite threats to Our lives.
The proLife attempt is to marginalize abortion,
imply that abortion is the exception, that nobody except those on the margins of society use abortion. This increases the guilt
about getting an abortion. To fight this we must share our abortion stories. When someone speaks out against abortion, you
should quit them as a friend or speak against them.
So, tell me your story. How many kids do you already have? Do you have a partner who helps
emotionally and financially? Do you already receive housing, food or cash assistance? What
will happen if you can't get this abortion? These stories are for Kansas legislators, Democrats
and Republicans, and letting them know why we provide safe, legal abortions. Men and women both
may fill these out.
Thank you. These stories will help show that abortions are done
for important reasons. Judge us not. [Luke 6:37] Also, I am forwarding these stories to our Legislators
in hopes that they will understand their normal Constituents, not just Operation Rescue, or Kansans
for Life, or their conservative ministers.
This page will be updated as more material becomes available. Thanks to you who send us your stories.
Received 2013 May 01th
Well, I have 3 kids, and Yes, I work. I'm not a person who sleeps around. I had 1 sex partner & was using the
NuvaRing. but as you see, I ended up here. My choice to have an abortion was because this wasn't a planned pregnancy. I honestly thought
my birth control (NuvaRing) that I was okay. Now I know nothing is 100% and I can't afford another kid. I would rather have an abortion, then
to bring a kid in this world or give it up for adoption. So I would like to thank Thee entire staff there. When I walked in and the lady at the
front desk started talking, I felt so comfortable. I never felt like I was being judged. Received 2013 Apr 27th
Hello, I am a 34yo mother of two, one son who will be 16yo and one daughter who will be 5yo this year.
I chose abortion first because I am not married, yes it sounds hypocritical with facts being I had un-marital sex. However, I am
trying to change my life and follow a righteous path, at least strive for it.
I am currently attending Nursing School, bridging from LPN to RN. I work part-time and have no assistance
from my children's father. I just started receiving Foodstamps and I truly do not understand how people deal with DFS (Department
of Family Services). In your time of need, they are rude and at times prejudice. So this abortion was necessary for me and the children
I already have. The topic of abortion needs to be laid to rest. It is and will always be the women's choice and that is our human right.
No judgements shall be passed. I am not a whore, nor ignorant. I am well educated and believe that no one sin is greater than another
sin, and we all fall short in some way.
Aid For Women provides good, safe abortion. They are all caring and supportive. We should look into the
service provided by DFS. In-Service (classes during working hours) those workers on Ethics and Privacy, Etiquette, Procedure, et cetera. Just a thought. Received 2013 Mar 18th
I have no kids. I do have a Sginificant Other whom I've been with for 9 months. He's 2 years older and already has a daughter
[to whom he pays child support already, I assume. Jeff]. He sometimes is there emotionally and financially,
but at times he puts football & himself first and has gotten physical during fights, nothing too serious, but he also just moved to Wyoming for football
- I don't want a part-time father or a paycheck to replace that for my child!
I am a full-time college student in a whole different state from my family. I recently am living with some friends 'til I get my own place. I also work two jobs.
I get no assistance except financial aid for school. If I didn't get the abortion then my child would maybe be fatherless & dysfunctional. I want to start over
and do things the right way, be married & have a career! & give my child everything to have a functional life. I will ask God for forgiveness. I am Catholic -
but everyone deserves the right to have a choice. I know & my boyfriend/friends know I'd make a great mother, but I'm young & not ready yet!
Thank you guys for your unbiased Care & for being understanding!
Q9. Anything you didn't like or scared you? A9. The only thing was the protestors. I just have anxiety issues & they made me feel uncomfortable.
Jeff's response: Yeah, I know. I don't think they really have a message other than to make people feel uncomfortable.
They want to feel superior. If they were more in tune with God, they would feel more at ease with themselves and others, less
agitated, IMO. And if they really believed in their connection to God by prayer, they could pray for the end of abortion by praying
while at home instead of harassing patients at the clinic, instead of taking pictures of abortion patients solely for the purposes of making
them feel uncomfortable, or yelling at abortion patients despite patients telling them to they are not interested, and
then the protesters use bullhorns to get their message through the sound-proof clinic walls when patients won't listen, or killing
abortion doctors, or super-glueing clinic doors, or any number of other harassments from the Army of God manual. They need the
Serentiy of God in their Heart. Received 2013 Mar 05th
Their was another Medical Assistant whose name I cannot remember [Liz?], but she
took very good care of me, made me feel very comfrotable, she even shared her own personal story of her 3 children and her tubal. She
helped me down the hall because I was a little woosey. Please give her a special Thank You from BL.
My experience at Aid For Women was great! I was a little scared I must admit, but Jeff kept me very entertained
and Barbie made me feel so comfortable. I like to personally thank all the staff at Aid For Women for helping
me through my situation. May God Bless you All.
Received 2013 Feb 28th Your story. I'm a single 32yo mother of a 5yo who's father left me when she was 8 months old. He
kicked me and her out on the streets and I chose to move in with my mother who loved me unconditionally. I worked hard for 3½ years
to make a life of my own and support both me and my child. I then found out my mother was diagnosed
with terminal cancer and later passed away after I nursed her and took care of her while she died slowly. It was very
traumatic for me and took a part of me away that I can never get back. When I lost her I lost myself and didn't know how I could go on.
I have this beautiful child that loves me and needs me. I almost lost her 3 times while I was pregnant with her and I din't want to go
through another loss. The pain would be too great and I felt this was the only choice so I could take care of the one I was blessed with.
I believe my choice was the right one and that doesn't make me a bad person! Received 2013 Feb 27th Q9. Anything you didn't like or scared you?
The people were very helpful with any questions I had, they were very kind & understanding. I support what you guys are doing
because you never know what a woman is going through and why she needs [an] abortion. I am thankful for Jeff; he was so
kind & helpful with getting everything set up.
Well, my story starts with domestic violence. I had my jaw broken. I believe it is a sin to bring a child into a situation where
is it not gonna be loved right. That's worse than abortion to me. I have a daughter & love her dearly & am a great full-time mother, not a whore.
I understand we women make our bed when we take risks but everybody makes mistakes. I'm not an evil person. I love children, but I also
have the idea where I need to be ready before I bring another child into this world. You never know what a person may be going through. I'm
not a pyschopath. I would love to have a family, but not a child who doesn't feel loved because of me. I'm young. I would like to go to school,
accomplish goals, not have a baby my a man who could kill me while i'm pregnant. I am very pleased with the Dr. & the people in the office. Jeff was
amazing. Every time I called for a question or help, he was an amazing help. Also Barb was like an angel. I was like a mother's love the way she
held my hand & gave me strength to make it through without breaking down. I support what they do stand for something or fall for anything
[?!, Jeff]. There are people like me who they just unknowingly improved a life for me and my daughter. I assure you
I'm not a whore and I have goals. And I assure you these people are soldiers in GOD's eyes. I thank them for everything. The Dr. was amazingly
calm & precise & helpful making sure I was okay thorugh the whole thing. I am grateful. I obviously chose the right place.
God Bless, Thank You, C.
Received 2013 Feb 20th
Making this decision was not easy, but I realized that I was not emotionally, mentally, or financially ready for bring another
life into the world. I recently graduated from college, but wanted to start my career before starting a family because I know it
would be hard to raise a child without being able to afford it.
Thank you to the Staff at Aid For Women for being understanding and non-judgemental about this tough situation. I am
grateful that there is a place like this that makes women feel so comfortable about the choice. Everyone here is so kind and
a special thank you to Barbi for holding my hand throughout the procedure. Without her there by my side, I might have had a breakdown! Received 2013 Feb 18th Q9. Anything you didn't like or scared you? If we don't know we can't change for the better.
Nurses, physician, Jeff, everyone was great - especially Barbi during the procedure! ☺
I have 2 beautiful boys 9 & 4 and I love them with all my heart. I recently (6 months) got divorced and have a new, great boyfriend.
Unfortunaltely we weren't being smart with birth control and got pregnant. I do not have alot of money and I'm not sure I want to be with this man FOREVER,
so we opted to terminate this pregnancy. I was 6 wks and felt that it was the best choice for us. I have ZERO REGRETS! I am 35 and am
happy with my 2 kids.
Received 2013 Feb 18th Staff members that were particularly helpful to you:
The sonographer was very nice.
I am a 26 year old college graduate in graduate school. I have a partner that I will likely marry. I want very much to be a mother,
I want it so much that when I'm ready I would like to be able to devote everything to raising my child. I did not want something that
I look forward to so much to be cheapened for me or my child by struggle. I would like to be done with school and in a position to
nuture and support my baby like it deserves.
Received 2013 Feb 11th
I have 3 children, two boys and a girl. They are 10, 6, and 2 years old. I miscarried twins 6 months after my daughter
was born in 2011. I am a single mother, I receive Foodstamps and at the moment I'm living off of my kids' SSI. If I wouldn't have
made my decision I would have brought another child into this cruel world without the proper love from a father.
It is not the child's fault and I didn't want my child suffering from my mistakes. Believe me when I tell you I loved my unborn,
[and] I just rather my child to be with GOD than birthed into this world. I made the best decision I could of ever
made, and the next child I choose to birth will be loved with the parents together as they should be and love the baby like the rest.
- LB Received 2013 Feb 5th
Q9. Anything you didn't like or scared you?
A9. No, I went into it not sure, but after talking about everything and the procedure and the excellent staff, was comforting. You guys made me feel really comfortable and I really appreciate it.
-- God bless you guys!
Would you please, for Jeff, tell Your abortion story.
I got an abortion because I made bad choices in my past that turned me to become pregnant. I didn't use birth control at that time and/or use a condom.
I didn't know who the father would have been either. It would have been between three guys and only two knew, but only them. They didn't know about the
third. I had no idea who the third was. I'm 20 and in college. I disrespected my family, my body but most of all, God for not staying abstinent or safe. But
people change and I believe every situation is different, every women has their story and and wants wants to live life. If I didn't get the abortion, I would
have been a single mother, my family would have disowned me, especially my mother, I wouldn't have been able to play volleyball or finish my junior college
to move on to the university because I was really sick the first two weeks. I know God forgives me. I know I made the choice because it was the best for me.
I have to live with the decision for the rest of my life, but that's fine. My life is back on track, I stopped partying and drinking and am closer to GOd than ever.
I know he has a great future for me. We all pay for our mistakes. Nobody has room to judge because that's not your right, you've got skeletons in your closet,
everybody does, nobody's perfect. But that's how God made us.
And I'm staying a strong woman, paying bills and school on my own, living to be happy for myself and serve my Lord, my Savior. Received 2013 Feb 1st
I am single, no children. I got pregnant from a one night stand & I took it upon myself to make the decision. I am not physically, emotionally or in anyway ready for a baby & especially not with a guy I barely know. It happens.
Thank you for providing this service. -B. Received 2013 Jan 29th Question 9. Anything you didn't like or scared you? If we don't know, we can't change for the better.
I can't say anything bad. The staff was prompt, courteous, and helpful. My experience at your clinic was great under the
circumstances. Very professional clinic.
☺ Keep up the good work.
My story: I have 3 kids. I'm a single mom who works and goes to school 7 days a week. Yes, I do receive food
assistance, for the three children I already have. In my own opinion, I'm too old to have more children, my kids
are self-sufficient now, so to put myself in a situation where I'd be having another child and raising it on my own
just does not make sense. I'm working my behind off already to build a better future for my children and I . Everyone
knows what they can and cannot handle. There are already enough poverty stricken women as it is, and then people
want to complain about women being on welfare. These people are not taking care of these kids, the woman is, so in
general whomever has something to say about what a woman does with her body needs to step aside, and respect
other peple's choices. NO ONE is perfect, so people should not throw stones! And, Yes, I am a Christian!
P.S. And its not like we don't feel bad about the situation, and having to go through with our decision.
[Thank you. -Jeff.]
Received 2013 week of Jan 7th
Hello, I am 22year old. I have one child, a son. His father, my fiancée, and I really appreciate the help we
received. My fiancée has a daughter also, and between his daughter and our son we didn't need another child at this time.
We are now working on getting our lives and our childrens' lives in order for the future so that we can some day afford another child.
We both have full time jobs. We only receive Daycare assistance, no cash, food, or housing [assistance], and even with the
daycare assistance we struggle. Knowing we had your support in our decision made everything in the process easier. We now have a
plan for our families' lives and couldn't be happier!
Being proChoice doesn't make someone a bad person, it makes a person realize what they need to do to better their own lives, and how to help out other people in a time of need. Thank you for everything! We greatly appreciated it.
-From our loving family of 4 ♥'s
I would like to also write in and offer my gratitude for your support, comforting staff, and assistance. Our strong belief in the services provided as well as the understanding and knowledge given are overwhelmingly received in relief. Once again thank you, our best for you and yours. -G Received 2012 October 24
I am a single mother of one seven-year old boy. I own my home, have a great job and have been divorced just over a year.
I do not have any assistance to provide for my home or our food. However, I am living paycheck to paycheck. Without the
opportunity to terminate this pregnancy, I'm sure I would be forced to make the lifestyle changes that include my home, food
costs, additional hospital charges -- loss of work due ot appts and mental stability. I was taking oral contraceptives w/ my
partner but obviously not at consistent times each day. Without an abortion option, my depression could'
ve become completely unmanageable and my partner and I may have been forced to live together when we would not have
considered so early in our relationship otherwise.
Legal abortions should be the choice of females aware that they cannot provide sufficiently for their unborn child. Thank you for asking about my story.
Received 2012 July 18
I am 22, I am single (unmarried) and have been dating the same guy for almost 2 years. My father doesn't know about him [boyfriend] because he is
much older than me and [dad] would never approve. Hint: reason #1 for the abortion.
I am currently about to start Radiology school which is full time Summer/Spring/Fall 40-80hr weeks for two years straight. I want to fully be able to
focus on my future and education and strongly feel that a baby in my life right now would literally kill my life dreams and goals.
I learned from my mistake, I did miss a couple of weeks of my pills and was having unprotected sex. I knew better, however I was naive
and figured it wouldn't happen to me.
I will say that process has had no bearing on my emotions in a negative way. I felt relieved like I was given a second chance at my life
after the practically painless procedure. My biggest fear of abortion was having nightmares and uncontrollable pain. Neither of those things
happened and my pregnancy dreams instantly stopped waking me up at night.
Received 2012 July 12
I am printing this without her permission, but I think that as long as I keep this fairly anonymous she won't mind.
A kind, older lady stopped by to tell me her story. I will call her Storyteller. She thanked us for doing what we do. She is Catholic but
says the church has no business controlling birth control or abortions. She proceeded to tell me about her great grandmother died
near Fulton, MO in 1885 from complications from an abortion. It was guessed that she had tried to self-induce her abortion.
Then, she told me about herself more. It seems that her mother at 18yo got pregnant by a 31yo man who loved her dearly, but she
didn't feel the same for him. She did not want to be burdened with a family a that time. They were on their way to Boone County to
where a doctor there did illegal abortions. While driving to the doctor, the 31yo boyfriend had an epiphany and decided he was going
to marry her. Back then you didn't refuse an offer of marriage. She gave birth 5 months later to Storyteller, so this was your proverbial
shotgun wedding. Years later, after her mother died, her very old aunt told Storyteller about the abortion her mother almost obtained, and about how
Storyteller's mother had regretted not getting the abortion. Storyteller already knew about her birth 5 months after mom's marriage in 1933.
[Let's not go back to this. Women are neither a sex tool for men, nor baby machines for male egos. -Jeff] Received 2012 June 6
My mother Jo told me her story before she passed away, God rest her soul. This happened in Kansas City in 1965, when abortions were illegal everywhere in the U.S.
Her friend, whom I will call Martha to protect her privacy since she is still alive in KC, became pregnant from an affair outside of her marriage. It happens. The
man she got pregnant by was a bagman (moved money) for the mafia. Through his mafia contacts they were given directions on where to go for the abortion.
Martha asked Jo for help because Jo had a car. Dad was an Over The Road truck driver and didn't need the car. Back then, families were lucky to have one car, not like today.
My mother Jo and Martha then proceeded to the River Bottoms warehouse district below the limestone bluff summit of Kansas City, Missouri. They were told to
go into the warehouse and take the freight elevator up to the 2nd or 3rd floor and go to a specified room down the hallway.
According to the directions, they went out onto the Fire Escape and there was a 2"x12" plank laid across to the other building's Fire Escape: Jo and Martha crossed over and
waited upon the window sill of the other open window. Back then Jo smoked heavily, and this was no exception. [Congestive Heart Failure from Smoking killed her in 2004.]
Eventually, a doctor and nurse who were gowned up with scrubs, mask, and hat. The doctor never spoke. The nurse asked for the money, $2000 [worth about
$14,500 in 2012 dollars]. The nurse attached screw-on stirrups onto the edge of a nasty wooden table in the middle of the room. There was a single overhead
incandescent lightbulb hanging from a wire that the nurse turned on. The nurse asked if Jo wanted to stay and watch, to which she immediately said, "No! I will wait in the hallway."
Jo smoked another 4 or 5 cigarettes. The nurse brought her back when the abortion was done. Martha was cramping real bad. Jo asked if they could take the frieght elevator
down with them since Jo didn't want to have to take Martha across the 2"x12" plank single file while she was cramping. The doctor, saying nothing, pointed back across the
window and plank. Jo and Martha made their way back across the plank while doubled-over with cramping, took the freight elevator down, and returned home.
The next day Martha called. She was running a fever and was real sick. Mom had me watch my younger brother and sister. Jo took Martha to St. John's hospital
that used to be in the northeast of Kansas City but exists no longer. They packed her vagina with gauze and povidone or something. I don't know if they gave her
antibiotics or not. They got her infection under control but the infection had damaged her Fallopian tubes. She was never able to have children again.
The Religious want to force us women to have all our pregancies, no matter the reason, no matter the cost.
Received 2012 June 1
I'm a mother of two and have a medical issue that will not allow me to take hormonal birth control. And, yes, accidents
do happen. That's the reason I had to get an abortion. But we are all humans and other peopole should not judge others for
the chioices they make. You never know someone's glory until you know their story.
And, no, I don't get any Housing, Foodstamps, et cetera. I work hard for everything I get and what people do with their life
is their own business as long as it is not harming others [Jeff added, not harming the picketers].
Some people have their reasons. So please back off and leave the Family Medical alone.
It's people's choices to do what they do. No one puts a gun to their head and makes them get an abortions. But it is rude for
people to walk up and down the street with signs. To each it's own. And abortions don't mamek you a bad person. Sometimes
people worry about the wrong things in life, and abortion should not be on the top of the list. Let's see what about the rapist?
They get people knocked up and raping little kids. What about the drug dealers taking over our street? What about bettering
our education for our kids, or trying to get the unemplyment rate down? What about the nursing homes where the seniors are
being abused and neglected? There's alot of other important things to be worried about other than who's getting abortions. Nine
times out of ten someone in your family has had an abortion. Really, people, it's bigger issues this world than to pick on people
who knows what's best for them and then when people start to have alot of kids and get on the welfare system you'll want to cry about that.
So what is a person to do? I thought this was the land of the free. But I guess not. What is this world coming to?
Received 2012 May 04
I have 3 kids. I am married (14years). No I don't rceive any assistance. I would have to quit working and that would
put us in a financial bind, as well as supporting a newborn. We have no money saved up but our 3 kids CD's that are locked.
My husband and I are going through some problems and a newborn just wasn't safe for us to bring them in that environment.
Received 2012 March 27
I am 30 years old. I already have two young children who I support without assistance.
I have a caring boyfriend..but am unsure of where the relationship is heading. I've overcome
alot of struggles as a single mother and was recently diagnosed with PTSD. I financially and
mentally could not support another child. I have gotten pregnant off of birth control and
have plans to seek a more permanent solution. Until recently I have not had the means to do so.
The staff at Aid For Women were amazing. They made me feel very comfortable. Barbie & Jeff are the best!
Without them...I would be heading down an very dark and difficult path & the children I already have would suffer.
Also, from the other side of our Evaluation Form, Question 9. "Anything you didn't like or scared you?"
"I was scared at first in the parking lot. It was still early in the morning on Saturday and the protesters started
picketing. More lights maybe?? It was very nice of Jeff to come out early to get me from my car. Very, Very nice staff!"
Received 2012 March 13
Dear Aid For Women,
Thank you for offering your service. It is a blessing to us Women! I read the reviews on here before I made
my appointment, I read the whole website which is very helpful. It helped us choose you. Granted - KC was a
LONG trip for us. FOR THE IDIOT CONSERVATIVES WHO THINK THE WORST ...NOT EVERY FEMALE WHO WALKS
THROUGH THOSE DOORS FOR AN ABORTION IS A SLUTTY TEENAGER OR CRACK WHORE!!!!!
MY STORY: I am in my 40's, I had a long battle with Breast Cancer and assumed I was unable to become
pregnant... I assumed wrong! My husband and I have never wanted Children, married for over 20 years we never
gave it a second thought. We made an immediate decision to terminate this Pregnancy. #1 for fear of my health,
#2 Complication for the fetus from months of chemo, radiation, and medications...and #3 for fear of raising a child
in our 50's and 60's+ would not be fair to any child. I AM THANKFUL THERE ARE STILL A FEW PLACES WHO
OFFER ABORTIONS! I am ever grateful to Jeff. When you walk in the door, he greets you with a knowing look (he
knows you are scared as hell) and he shows you a caring attitude. He is a very blunt and to the point Man and
tells it like it is. The whole procedure is done over a few hours. The scary part of the whole thing...the abortion
itself... is basically the same as a pap smear! Takes several minutes, you cramp like hell, (like menstrual
cramps x50) and it is done. The nurses surrounding you talk to you, hold your hand, and keep you talking. You
are done before you even think about what is happeningh. KUDOS to all the ladies up there!! They are amazing
I was worried about the protesters/Hecklers...DON"T BE. They are nothing to worry about and JUST ignore
them. DON'T confront them... that is what they want. Ignore them, don't say a word, it drives them c_r_a_z_y.
Don't have any second thoughts about using this clinic. I would definitely recommend them. Don't feel guilty about
your decision, and never look back!! -Mel in Missouri
Received 2012 March 01
My story consists of having three children already and from trying to pick up the pieces of my relationship with my partner (husband) to work out our differences which
didn't work out, but to try and have someone see you care for them and sorry for whatever that you give in to situations to just try to make it better, which leads to sex but no
relationship agreements. SO I realized he no longer loves me like I wanted him to, and that I should of left him alone and let him move on instead of trying to make it work, and
not have intimacy with this person twice in months to find out [that] not only did you fail in making him love you like he did at one time, but now you are pregnant and see
there is no relationship there especially to bring a child into where the mom is struggling already and the children with little state assistance help and only the help of my mother
who doesn't need to have me, the children, and a new one when dad is not around. Two of my children [are] already like that. Options are helpful so when they are there and
available, take them.
Crazy lady who needs to grow up. [She was being self-deprecating. -MJP]
Received 2012 February 22
I already have 4 kids and could not carry another child due to my age and health.
Received 2012 February 18
I got an abortion because I was constantly sick. I wasn't able to keep any food down whatsoever. I was losing wieght rapidly.
I wasn't able to stand up for long periods of time without fainting. I was only 8weeks along [LMP] and I was already skin and
bones skinny. After the abortion I was abler to keep food down and I started to regain some energy.
If I had not got the abortion I believe that I would have starved to death. Plus the baby's father was scheduled to leave for Iraq
for over a year and the would have been just months old. I would not have been able to financially raise that baby with him gone.
Received 2012 February 16
I am a young working woman just out of college with my Master's degree. I secured my first job upon graduation. My boyfriend of 3 years is still finishing school.
Knowing that we were going to be apart so much more than we were together, I stopped birth control. He is an international student at my school. We are not really sure
what will happen when he graduates this year. Will he be able to secure a job in the States and stay with me, or will he have to return to his homeland? This
Christmas we took our first international trip to visit his family in his country of origin. This is where I became pregnant. Not knowing where we would be in a year,
him here or 5,000 miles away and me just in the midst of my first year on my first job, not eligible for maternity leave, we decided to get the abortion.
It was a hard decision knowing that we will probably eventually be married and have a family. The timing now was just not right and we felt it was the best decision
We thank Central Family Medicine for providing us this service without judgement. Abortion is a choice and it should continue to be for women in all circumstances.
Received 2012 February 03
Question: Why was this abortion important to you?
Husband helps & supports.
Zero assistance. We work.
Age & health (cancer survivor) were reason for appointment.
It's my body - my choice!
Received 2012 February 03
Our questionnaire, Q9. Anything you didn't like or scared you?
Everyone there did a great job. I was just very scared & felt alone like a bad person. They let me know it didn't make me a bad person and that I'm not alone in it all.
Received 2012 February 03
I just wanted to say, thanks to Jeff for helping me get quick financial support through the Peggy Bowman Fund. (I will pay her back). I also want
to thank Jeff for his sense of humor & social personality. I was also impressed w/ Elizabeth and want to thank her for talking to me about her culture
during the procedure, it gave me something else to focus on. :)
Thanks to Barbie for holding me hand during the procedure. Her touch comforted me!
Dr. Yeomans is awesome! I appreciate the time he took talking to me pre-procedure. And his 35years of experience. : D
Received 2012 January 13
To the question, "Anything you'd like Jeff to say to the proLifer protesters or Legislators?" (grin) Patient said - Go home and pray for forgiveness for judging; my judge will be face to face with God. I have to live with my decision, they don't!!
[Thank you. I agree. They must remove the log from their own eyes first before trying to remove the speck from the eye of others.
They are a greater sinner by passing moral judgment while picketing clinics. Instead of picketing, make our world more supportive
of women's problems: better wages for women, better enforcement of rape laws, better enforcement of child support, better child
daycare for working mothers, schools teaching respect for both sexes,... -Jeff.]
Received 2012 January 11
Evaluation questions: More available days, lower the waiting time, and reduce the patient flow.
I'm 23yo. I have no children. I have a very supportive boyfriend that I've been with for 10 months.
I have a great job doing something that I'm passionate about, but I'm still unsure about what I want out of
life and where I want to end up. I still feel like I have a lot of living, growing, and figuring out who I am,
and who I want to be before I have children. How can you teach your children to be strong, proud, and
well rounded when you haven't yet learned that yourself?
My parents had me when they were 19yo and they hadn't lived or grown up completely, and when they
finally did, they had grown apart. They stayed together for me because they felt obligated and I could feel
that tension everyday.
I want to be stable and know what I want and who I am as a person before I become
responsible for another life. This is why I got an abortion, because I feel that I owe it to my future children to
be completely ready and stable when I bring their precious lives into this crazy screwed up world.
Received 2012 January 10
Evaluation questions: Improvements would be to decrease the waiting time and get rid of the protesters.
I'm 20yo and abortion never seemed llike an option I would have to make.
I was in a relationship with a guy that was struggling with a drug problem and who was emotionally abusive. Although all
of these things were going on, I stayed with him for 6 years. I finally found the courage to leave and found out a few weeks later
that I was pregnant with his child. Rather than put myself back into this hostile relationship, introduce an innocent child into a chaotic
life, and have them grow up with a terrible example as a father, I made the decision to choose abortion. I also will be graduating from
college in 4 months and I based my decision on these factors in my life.
I've accepted and become at peace with my decision. Not everyone who has an abortion is a monster! There is a time and
place in a person's life for a child and this is just was not mine
Note for Barbi -
You made me feel comfortable from the moment I was seen by you. I knew that you sincerely cared about me and never once judging me!
While the procedure was being done you rubbed my head and talked with me, calming me the entire time. The world needs more kind-hearted souls like you.
Jeff - Tell the protesters the "#1 problem in America isn't abortion, it's stupidity.
Received 2012 January 02
from a Thank You card
I wanted to write you this little note while the events of the day are still fresh in my mind. Words escape me when I try to come up with a true thank you for the work you all do!!
I guess I knew, but never truly realized how dangerous and tedious your jobs really are. From the kind women and doctors who helped my friend through her process,
to Dan and Jeff keeping everyone safe and making sure things run smoothly, every single one of you; even if you think your're just doing your jobs, are all a gift sent from God!
You're not told often enough how important what it is you do, and how well every single one of you does it. Jeff told me that since I have such a big mouth
[Jeff's phrase was "Wild women don't get the blues," by Ida Prather Cox, meaning, "Say it like it is, don't keep it bottled up inside you making you
sick and more abused." Also related is the movie "Wild Women Don't Have
the Blues"] I shall never be bored!! Next time I'm in the city I'll be more than happy to have a nice chat with the local Thumpers! Merry Christmas
and God Bless for you all in the New Year!
Received 2011 November 25
Everyone's reasons are different for getting this procedure done. I made my decision because I'm not financially ready
for a third child. And the father was no where around and was not dependable at all. So I felt I did what was best for me and my familty. Then END! : )
Received 2011 November 25
I have two kids, a boy and a girl, 10yo and 7yo. Their dad is not a nice person. There was no way I could afford another baby all by myself.
We have been on and off for 10 years. He showed up drunk one night and we had sex. I was scared to say "No," because he is very abusive.
That's why we have been off and on for 10 years.
I've tried to leave but I can't get away. The police and DA never have really helped. I tried going through them to get away but he finds us. If I
could not have had this abortion things would have got worse for my kids and I.
If I would not have found Central Family Medicine I'm not sure where I would be but I'm very thankful I did. Thank you.
Received 2011 October 04
I am a 21 year old single mother. I'm not a "tramp." I do not sleep around. I am currently double majoring in criminal justice and psychology to
become a child's advocate. I am by no means a monster. I got pregnant at 18 and kept the baby; my daughter. Her father suffers from severe psychological
problems. He put me through hell from day one.
In August I found out that I was pregnant again, even though I was on birth control. The guy was an ex and had no job, no vehicle, and horrible anger
issues. I argued with myself from the second I saw the positive test that I couldn't go through with an abortion. I thought about it everyday, all day long.
What kind of life would this baby have? Living in a trailer on welfare while I'd have to drop out of school to juggle two babies by different fathers? The thought made me sick.
Thanks to my right to choose, I get to stay in college and get my degrees and have a good life for myself and my daughter, and when I find the right
man a few years down the road, I will add to my family.
Received 2011 September 28
I have two other kids. My boyfriend is not supportive,and doesn't know that I was pregnant, nor that I had an abortion.
I work two jobs to support my family. Forty hours a week at one job, and 24 hours a week at my night job. I don't qualify for
State Assistance. Nobody helps me financially or emotionally but my sister-in-law (older brother's wife). She is my rock.
She can't help me financially but sure does try. She's worse off than I am honestly. She's the best. But if I didn't get the
abortion my life would have changed. It was gonna be upside down!
I was raped at a party by an african amercian guy. My kids are... well, one is one-fourth mexican and three-fourth white.
My youngest is all white so having a mixed (black and white) baby was out of the question. Most of my family would have
completely disowned me!!! FOR LIFE!!!!! So please, I'm begging all of you in our State's Capitol (Topeka), please keep
abortions legal! Let them women have a chjoice! They are the ones that have to live with it either way, not you!!! Do you
wanna pay for it with your taxes?! I didn't think so!
[Thanks for sharing, and am sorry. Jeff] Received 2011 September 07
My Story -
I 've been dealing with severe back pain for 5 or more years. When I was in 10th grade I was in a car accident at 10mph
where the airbags came our and hit me in my pelvis. I didn't have any back pain until I'd gotten my CNA in 2004 (10th grade).
I worked 32 hours a week in nursing homes, plus went to High School.
After many years of lifting residents on my own, always on my feet and not getting healthy amounts of sleep, I was put on
Lortab 5mg PRN (as needed). I took those for over a year when I was hurting more than Lortab would even touch. I was put on
percocet 5mg x2 at bedtime and that was enough - good for 2 years. Then I started working in Assisted Living instead of a full
blown Nursing home. I thought it'd be better for my back - BUT I'd JUST gotten my Med Aide license and pushing, pulling, and
steering the BIG med cart irritated my back. I started taking a percocet 5mg during my 8hr work day if I HAD to.
The residents I cared for all had Alzheimers and I was always chasing them around. Eventually I got to where my doctors were
all saying they weren't seeing anything wrong with my back. I underwent all the tests, injections, MRI's, nerve burning, etc. etc etc.
which NOTHING seemed to help, and the doctors kept telling me there was nothing wrong and they don't know what to do for me. I decided
to go to a spine doctor in Wichita who is VERY HIGHLY RECOMMENDED. This doctor is the BEST one, yet he understands my pain, tells
me where the problems is (L5-S1). Also explained why I'm having such a bad time with pain, why my left leg is completely numb & why
I'm always falling down. My disc is completely blown at L5-S1, nerves are being pinched off. I've been taken off work since 7-1-2011
due to pain and not being able to handle the duties of the NEW job I got in March of 2010 as a Debt Collector because nursing got so
painful. Sitting in one spot for 8 hours is just as bad. I don't sleep at night, even on pain meds I'm on. Opana 5mg IR, Opana 10 ER,
Ambien, Celexa 40mg.
I was put on my doctor's surgery schedule for 8-31-11, my father drove from Colorado Springs, CO to be there, my aunt took off work,
my mom who lives in Hutchinson took there for surgery. The nurses had me in the middle of being ready for surgery (ex. IV done, BP cuff on,
T.E.D. hose (compression stockings to prevent embolism during and after surgery) on, getting ready to give me some antibiotics), and my doctor's
surgerical assistant came into the room to tell me I'm pregnant and that they have to cancel my surgery. I am off work on FMLA (Family Medical
Leave Act) and that (short term disability) is only 3 months long in order to save your job I's have to be back by Sep. 29th.
I've never been pregnant before, I've been with the same guy for 6 years on 9-20-11. I stopped taking my birth control prior to surgery
(Doctor's rules) and I'm allergic to latex, we very rarely ever have sex due to the pain it causes me. I do try to once in a great while for
my boyfriend who is 26 years old. We didn't make sure to have to get NON-latex condoms and I conceived 7-29-11 (The first time we'd been
sexually active for a good 3-4 months). The nurses at the pre-Op room room before I was to have surgery were all pressuring me me to have
the baby, that I'd be a great mother, etc. Both of my parents are proChoice. It was a little easier to talk to them about my concerns,
feelings, emotions, anger, and pain. I weighed out ALL of the options and decided Abortion was what was best for me.
I was 7 weeks and 0 days as of TODAY which was when the procedure took place, 9-7-11. I've been on very strong medications the entire pregnancy.
It wasn't planned. I haven't been working since 7-1-11 and am VERY short on cash, just to feed myself is hard right now.
The ObGyn I've seen for my yearlys spoke with my spine doctor and they both agreed it would be very difficult, if at all possible, to carry FULL TERM,
Deliver, then care for the baby after birth, the way a baby should be cared for. After I gave birth, I'd have to have back surgery to get myself taken
care of and would miss out on bonding with the baby. I've cramped very badly for the last week. I can NOT handle the extra pain I'm in due to all of
the puking I do in the mornings, the cramping, and not being able to eat, PLUS the affects of my pain medicine!
I tried going by my ObGyn's recommendation to only take extra strength Tylenol for pain & Benadryl at night to sleep - that was NOT an option for me
after giving the BEST ATTEMPT I could in order for me to be a successful/responsible adult and mother. I need to get my own health taken care of
so that I can care for a child and be a mommy! I want to be able to care for my child with NO STATE ASSISTANCE and taking NO pain medication
(during or after the pregnancy). I believe in proChoice. I'm thankful women still have the right to make a choice, especially in this situation I'm in.
Received 2011 September 01
My abortion story is that I'm a young girl who is stuck, couldn't tell anyone but my mother.
I have a life ahead.
The father is not in my life whatsoever. There is no way I could afford it, emotionally, physically.
I go to school so it would be way out of hand. I have nobody to help me.
I wouldn't know how to take care of a baby, I'm a kid myself. This abortion helped me in so many years [ways?].
I know that its not always a great decision but I know it was the best I could do.
My family would surely not be happy about this.
I'm supposed to be the first person in my family to graduate and go to college, how am I supposed to do that
if I have a baby, there is no way. I don't have space, I have nothing to give this child.
I didn't wanna bring a baby out into this world, if there is nothing I could give literally.
I hope you understand why I did this.
[Thank you for your story. -Jeff]
Recieved 2011 August 06
I have a great job and a great support system, but for me personally, I have major goals within a year.
I was supposed to start school in a couple weeks and being pregnant I know would not had let me complete and after school
is over in a year and a half I plan on re-locating and I just feel I would have failed my self with all my goals. It sounds
selfish but I will not ever put myself in this situation ever again. Next time I'll be more steady with a career and I can
focus on a child. :)
2011 July 30, A kind letter sent in to us.
Aid For Women
Dear Sir, Madam, or Doctor,
I am a strong supporter of abortion rights. My cousin in Wichita went to the late Dr. Tiller for
an abortion. She told me he said to her, "When you''e ready to have a baby, come to me so I can see
that you get good pre-natal care." I cried the day he was killed.
I strongly support your efforts to continue to provide abortion services. The new KDHE regulations
are ridiculous. They are clearly not medically necessary. It's a pity your organization was denied a
license [Not entirely true. We operate under a temporary restraining order stopping the law from taking
effect until we can prove our case before the Federal Court. -Jeff, August2011]. With the final draft of the regulations
approved June 17th, with a compliance date of July 1, how could any provider meet the new rules and regulations?
I am so proud of your efforts to challenge the measure, and you have my whole-hearted support. Please keep up
In solidarity, MG
Kansas City (her name and address withheld by Jeff for her privacy)
Received 2011 June 01
Q. Anything you'd like Jeff to say to the proLife protestors or Legislators? (grin)
A. No one has the right to tell someone what decision to make. Everyone is different = different solutions.
To the protestors, Find something else to do with your time that would serve God better than to harass
people with a sign.
Received 2011 May 11
I am a Senior in high school who's already been accepted to college. I made a mistake (well we).
I didn't get pregnant my myself. But I felt this was the right choice for me. I had all the support
I needed but ultimately it was my decision. Now I will continue my education and also educate young
ladies like myself that there are many forms of birth control - just choose!
2011 April 16 patients
I am a single mother who makes under minimum wage. I struggle now as is to support my family of four by
myself. I am pregnant with multiples and there is no way I can support any more children, the father is
worthless, and I am glad to have a choice. Not to mention I don't believe I would be able to be an
adequate mother to so many children. Birth control & condoms didn't work.
Also, I have a friend who has 6 kids and a couple of weeks ago found out she was pregnant. She could not
get an abortion in Missouri so she stuck a clothes hanger up her for 3 days straight until she miscarried
and a few days later she went to the Emergency Room & was admitted & kept her for a solid week with an
IV antibiotic in her. She almost died from infection due to a cruel form of ‘self" abortion. If she
would have known about Kansas being legal this could have been prevented.
[Editor's note: Abortion is legal in Missouri, but there are few clinics in Missouri due to ambulatory
regulations making abortion ‘safer.']
I am the mother of a sixteen year old. She is a A,B student from XXXXXXXX.
She is a quiet Book reader that never gave me a problem in the world. On Friday the 8th, 2011 I caught
my daughter's boyfriend running from the back door. When I checked her cell phone as I removed everything
from her room, placing her on punishment, I saw a ‘text' "What do you want. Me to starve your child?"
I fell to my knees and cried. She's only sixteen. She has yet to graduate, and she has her whole life
ahead of her. When I asked, What do you want to do? She said abortion. I asked why. "Because I'm not
ready. I'm sorry. It should never have happened." We cried and spoke for hours about why the support
system I put in place failed (people that she could talk to outside of me). Women! Myself being
a 36 year old mother of two teenagers, one sixteen and the other fifteen. I live paycheck to paycheck
and work as a teacher at XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX. I depend upon on public Housing to assist in providing for
my children because I don't make enough and raising two teens is hard enough, so what would I do with
a grandchild. The decision had been made and we relied on family to help provide the money to take care
of the situation. But this decision was made because she, my daughter, wants to be a physiologist, she
has plans this summer 2011 to interview at the XXXXXXXXXXXX Hospital and then at UMKC Medical
internship next year. A baby would certainly cut all her hard working plans to become a better, more
important member of society. A productive member that has so much to offer. I support the decision and
will love her regardless but in this case I believe she made the right choice. Thank you
[Editor's note: she's referring to Aid For Women, Kansas City] for assisting
us in this life altering process and Good luck.
We have four kids, ages 20-16 between the two of us. This all started
about January 2011. I had a vasectomy in ‘92 and hadn't had any problem with it ever. One night at
work, I had a problem with kidney stones, but at the same time I ruptured the scar tissue, and the
canal grew back together, but we didn't know this. My wife lost one child at birth & almost lost
her, too. So when we found out she was pregnant at our ages, it was a huge blow. I had 4 kids but
only one of her. So we never felt as if we had much choice, at least I didn't. The reward was not worth
the risk. I am glad we had this Choice, in the long run it will serve our needs best.
In February 2011 I lost my job of 9 years. I found out I was pregnant
shortly after. Without health insurance and my unemployment, I was in a serious situation. If I was
not able to get this abortion my life would be far worse than I am now. I might even find a way to get
one illegally. I have one child and I have always worked really hard for every thing I have.
I have two boys, Blake & Cody. Well the only thing that will be
disrupted is work. I work a job from Monday thru Thursday. And the way Government and Economy is
in bad recession. The American family cannot survive with more than three kids in a family. A
single Mom - $20,000-$25,000; Average family $30,000 - $77,000 a year, politician $175,000;
President of America $244,000. There is a problem with this scenario.
[Editor's note: He is an Iraq war Vet who was being needled by my protesters. The
protesters were lucky he didn't hurt them. He has dealt with Fred Phelps & family before at military
Tengo solo un hijo, no seria problema para otras personas tenerlo, pero
tenemos problemas economicos, necesito trabajar para poder pagar mis cuentas y los de mi familia.
Esta opcion me permite segir con mi trabajo y no perderlo. Claro que me gustarla tener uno mas pero
por ahora no es conbeniente quiero estabilisarme. Solo dios conoce mis nesecidades y mis problemas
el sabe porque suceden las cosas y porque las pone en tu camino.
[Editor's note, rough translation:] I only have
a son, I don't have the problem other people have, but we have economic problems, but I have to work in
order to be able to pay my bills and those of my family. This option allows me to continue my job and
not lose it. Clearly I would like to have one more but so far it is not advisable, I want to establish
myself first. Only God knows my needs and problems because He knows things happen and because He put
them in my way.
Received 2011 April 15, Clinic Evaluation Form
Q3. We are happy you chose us. What helped make you decision? No other place offered abortion. [Editor's note: There are a few other clinics, actually.]
Q9. Anything you didn't like or scared you? I disliked the protesters very much. They didn't make me feel gulty or uncomfortable, but the whole 'quoting the Bible' nonsense got under my skin. As Charlie Sheen would say "Bible Grippers."
Q.10 Anything you'd like Jeff to say to the proLife protestors or Legislators? Tell them to realize this is Amercia, Land of the Free, and as my American right of free speach "Shut the fuck up!" Pardon my french.